During a temper tantrum, a child may kick, hit, scream, shriek, thrash, wail, bang his head or hold his breath. If your child is having a tantrum, take a deep breath and stay calm. Remember that you are not to blame, and tantrums are developmentally typical between the ages of two and five. If you don't see a decrease in tantrums after the child turns five, or if she regularly has tantrums that either last more than about 20 minutes or occur many times a day, talk to your pediatrician.
Refocus the child's attention on something else in order to prevent a tantrum. Briefly state that you know she wants to play with that toy but someone else has it, and then steer the child to a new toy or activity. Use humor and stay calm.